1 Corinthians 7 offers us the Apostle Paul’s “short course on marriage.” His bottom line is: Jesus is coming soon, so it’s better if you don’t get married. He then goes on to talk about those who are already married, those who are married to unbelievers, and those who aren’t married, but are going to sin if they don’t get married. In it all, Paul tells us if we get married, we “will have trouble.” Paul’s honesty is always apparent, but never more so than in this exposition of marriage. Paul gets quite practical in saying a husband and wife are not to deprive each other sexually. He says a believing husband or wife “sanctifies” their children. He concludes by once again reminding us that being unmarried assures of having more time and energy to focus on serving Jesus.
In 1 Corinthians 8, Paul deals with a matter that was quite important in his day, but not so much in ours: the eating of food sacrificed to idols. While the situation is different, the principles involved are instructive. Paul starts with an overarching principle: Knowledge puffs up, but love builds up. In other words, we can become proud when we put the pursuit of knowledge before our practice of love. In the pursuit of truth, we must never forget to live it out in love. The next principle is: Don’t do anything that will cause a weaker brother or sister to stumble. In Paul’s day when a believer ate food sacrificed to an idol, a weaker brother or sister could see that and assume it was okay to not only eat the food but worship the idol. In our day, an example might be consuming alcohol. While there’s nothing wrong with having a glass of wine with a meal, or a beer while we watch a football game, a weaker brother or sister might see that and assume it’s okay to consume alcohol in excessive amounts. Having worked with so many people who are in recovery from the abuse of alcohol and other drugs, I maintain Paul’s advice and don’t consume alcohol at all. I don’t want to be a stumbling block for them, and I want them to know someone who goes through life voluntarily without using alcohol. While each of us will apply these principles in different ways, the key is to help those who are “weaker” to become stronger in their faith, by the way we live out our relationship with Jesus.
In 1 Corinthians 9, Paul offers a defense of his ministry. We don’t have the letter the Corinthians wrote to Paul, but he is defending himself from those who attacked his integrity. First, Paul offers a defense of his “right” to be paid for his ministry. He offers a number of examples of why he holds the right. But then he tells us he didn’t exercise the right. He didn’t receive a salary from the Corinthians. He paid his own way. Then he talked about his methods in ministering to Jews, Gentiles, the weak, and others. His method was to become like them to the degree he could to win them to Jesus, but he would not break the law of Jesus in doing so. The model is so important and so powerful. We must always become like those with whom we are ministering to the degree we can without sinning, to bring them to the Lord!
As we return to Matthew 18, we find the disciples arguing over who was the greatest among them. Jesus pointed out this was the wrong question to ask, because in God’s Kingdom the greatest are those who serve the most, those who are like “children.” Jesus then went on to warn us against causing others to sin. He then told us how precious we are to God by telling the Parable of the lost sheep. Next, He told us how to address those who have sinned against us. The method put simply is confront in love and call the brother or sister to repentance. Finally, Jesus offers an extended parable about how God shows us His forgiveness and expects us to forgive others. The parable ends with a strong condemnation of those who will not forgive, because of how much God has forgiven us.