Category: Leading in Life

A quick review for those who haven’t been following this week’s posts on Self-Leadership: The past couple of days we’ve been looking at Michael Hyatt’s five “R’s” of managing energy. Hyatt contends that we can’t ultimately manage time, because it’s a fixed resource, but we can manage our energy, and to do so, we must use the five “R’s” effectively. The five “R’s” parallel the seven principles of Life Management, which I introduced back in July. The five “R’s” included: Rest, Refreshment, Recreation, Relationships, and Reflection.

Today, we turn to Recreation. For Hyatt recreation includes exercise and play. Once again, Hyatt doesn’t break any new ground when he talks about exercise, noting that we need exercise that addresses the aerobic, strength-building, flexibility and balance areas of our bodies. It is a helpful reminder, though, when we’re talking about energy to focus on exercise, because while it seems that exercise would deplete our energy, it actually builds energy over time. Healthy and fit bodies have more energy than those that are weak and out of shape.

Once again, I have experienced this personally both in practicing healthy exercise patterns and in not practicing them. For my entire adult life, I have let the pendulum swing back and forth in this area. To give an example of the extremes to which the pendulum has swung, ten years ago I was so out of shape that I could only “run” an 1/8 of a mile, so I decided to do something about it. Six months later I ran in, and completed, the Cleveland Marathon. Over that time my weight went from about 215 pounds to 180 pounds. I felt better than I had in years. Over the ensuing years, I continued running for a while, then after an injury swam a mile a day for a year or so. Following that, I “took a break,” which is a euphemism for saying I didn’t exercise regularly for six months. Then I started P90X and over the next two years completed P90X twice, P90X2  and P90X3.

The point here is that exercise is part of Recreation, which is part of self leadership. What is your routine? Do you exercise regularly? Do you swing back and forth from maintaining an exercise regimen to not doing so? In order to maintain the energy we need to live productive lives, and particularly to do so as leaders, we need to include exercise in our daily schedule.

Hyatt adds play to recreation, which I found both interesting and helpful. After all, as the old saying goes, “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.” We do need to play, to take time to have fun with our spouses, our families and with friends. The other night Nancy and I went to the Pirates’ game. While the game itself was a disappointment, we enjoyed the evening together, as well as with those who sat around us. A couple from Wisconsin, who were there to root for the Chicago Cubs, provided an evening of light-hearted jabbing back and forth. The great thing about fun is it doesn’t have to be expensive. We can play a board game with our family, or get together with friends to watch a free concert in a local park during the summer months.

Hyatt points out that recreation is intended to re-create us, and when we maintain appropriate levels of exercise and play that’s precisely what happens. Our bodies respond with greater health, our attitudes grow more positive and our overall demeanor becomes more positive. Recreation is definitely an energizer when we include it regularly in our lives, so if we want to be great leaders, it’s important to include it as a priority in our lives.

Here’s to leading better by including recreation–exercise and play–in our lives–today!

Let’s pick up where we left off yesterday with considering how we practice self-care through practicing the rejuvenating principles of the five “R’s” as presented by Michael Hyatt. In case you missed yesterday’s post, the five “R’s” are: Rest, Refreshment, Recreation, Relationships and Reflection. I compared these five “R’s” to my seven principles of Life Management yesterday, and if you want to see the parallels, you can read or reread yesterday’s post. Remember, too, Hyatt’s premise is we can’t manage time, because it is a fixed reality. What we can manage is our energy.  Through practicing the five “R’s” effectively, we increase our overall energy, which allows us to use our time optimally, and increase our overall productivity.

Let’s look at Hyatt’s second “R”: Refreshment. Hyatt uses the word refreshment to refer to food and drink. It is one of the three aspects of physical care in my seven principles of Life Management. Hyatt points out that he is neither a dietician nor a nutrition and that hundreds of plans for proper eating are out there. He points out a few simple truths when it comes to Refreshment: 1) We need to reduce our intake of high glycemic carbohydrates such as bread, pasta, potatoes and processed foods containing high fructose corn syrup and processed sugar; 2) We need to increase our intake of low glycemic carbohydrates such as legumes, most vegetables, sweet potatoes, and rice; 3) we need to get our protein from meats that have been grilled rather than fried, or coated with high glycemic carbohydrates; and 4) we need to drink a lot of water. Hyatt recommends drinking half the number of ounces of water as your weight in pounds each day. (For example: if you weigh 200 pounds, you need to drink 100 ounces of water.)

None of this is news to anyone who has been practicing even a modicum of self leadership in the area of “Refreshment.” As with Hyatt’s advice concerning rest, there is nothing groundbreaking here. This is common sense advice, we all know, but few practice. I have gone through seasons in my adult life when I practiced Life Management effectively in all seven areas, and in those seasons my energy was high and my effectiveness increased. Certainly, when we rest well on a regular basis, getting enough sleep each night, and taking regular brief naps during the day, and practice eating healthy foods and staying hydrated through drinking water, our energy and productivity will increase. That is common sense.

It is also effective self leadership. the challenge is to do what we know to do, isn’t it? None of us can disagree that it is effective self leadership to rest enough and eat well, but how many of us do it? For many years, I have focused on the challenge of discipline. I know what to do, but I’m not disciplined enough to do it. Hyatt has a response to such thinking. He calls it self-defeating thinking. After all, if I say, “I know what I need to do, but I’m not disciplined enough to do it,” then I’m saying I am going to fail at self-leadership. Hyatt points out that we need to stop seeing practicing these rejuvenating activities as a discipline to be exercised. They are rather freedom producing behaviors. They free us to live energized, productive lives.

For me the difference in those two perspectives is huge. After all, when I’m telling myself I don’t want to practice the discipline I “have” to practice in order to be healthy and effective as a leader, I’m convincing myself that it’s a battle I am eventually going to lose. When I see those activities as stepping stones to greater self leadership, greater health, effectiveness and productivity it makes a difference. 3,000 years ago, King Solomon of Israel said, “As a man thinks in his heart so is he.” How we think whether men or women, how we see ourselves, becomes what we are.

I’ve been taking Hyatt’s approach to self leadership over the past several days, and I can already sense the difference. Rather than thinking about my lack of discipline, I’ve been thinking about the freedom I’m going to experience when my energy level increases, when I’m back at my old “playing weight,” and when my key relationships are stronger, including my relationship with God. As we consider self leadership, managing our energy becomes a major factor in seeing ourselves grow. While each of us is unique, and varying personalities may have a different response to the concept of energy management as opposed to time management, I hope this framework helps you to become more effective in your own self leadership

Tomorrow, we’ll take a look at another of Hyatt’s means of managing our energy, so we will become more effective at using our time and more productive in our lives.

Here’s to leading better by using the refreshment of food and drink effectively–today!

It was probably John Maxwell who said, “All leadership starts with self-leadership.” Whoever said it was right. After all, how will you and I ever lead anyone else if we can’t lead ourselves? When we get out of the bed in the morning, or perhaps before we even get out of bed in the morning, we must understand the day ahead will be filled with opportunities to fulfill our personal vision and the corporate vision over which we are responsible for leadership.

What is a personal vision? As with all visions it is a picture of a preferred future. My personal vision includes a glimpse of the corporate vision of New Life, but it extends into the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual realms of my life. I am a follower of Jesus, so my worldview comes from the Bible. That worldview includes an understanding that each human being consists of three parts: body, soul and spirit. The body is physical. The soul incorporates the mind, the emotions and the will. The spirit is that part of us that connects with the Holy Spirit once we have been “born again” to use Jesus term from John 3.

Give that worldview, my personal vision includes my body, soul and spirit. I am fifty-nine years old, which means my vision for my body is different than it was when I was nineteen, or thirty-nine. I will never again run a five minute mile (or a seven minute mile for that matter.), but far too many folks in their fifties, sixties and beyond assume their bodies will be unable to function well. I have struggled all of my adult life with maintaining the fitness level that is possible for one of my age. That’s because I have sometimes forgotten to establish and clear vision, and at other times to follow through with my plan to attain and maintain that vision.

A number of years ago, I read a book titled Younger Next Year. The book transformed my vision for my body, because it offered seven simple, not easy, but simple habits, which if maintained would keep a person in their fifties and beyond healthy and functioning well physically. Having incorporated the premise of the book into my personal vision and having carried the plan out to lesser and greater degrees over time, I know the book’s premise is sound. Do you have a vision for your body?

When it comes to the soul–the mind, the emotions and the will–this is where the rubber meets the road when it comes to a personal vision. We must engage the mind, emotions and will in order to establish any kind of vision, and to carry the vision into practice. I have often “seen” a vision of a preferred future both personally and corporately quite clearly with my mind. I have been on board with it emotionally. I have become my own best cheerleader. But the will has not cooperated. It will be too hard, or too boring or too ________. Because all of us operate out of a state of fallenness or sin, even once we have been redeemed by Jesus Christ, we will struggle to a greater or lesser degree with getting our mind, emotions and will on board with a godly personal or corporate vision for our lives, but it is essential that we do.

The spirit is crucial when it comes both to formulating and carry out our personal vision, because aside from the Spirit of God connecting with our spirits to develop a godly vision and empowering us to living it out, we will always be struggling and battling at the level of the soul. The good news is our bodies will follow wherever our spirits or souls take them, so we need to ensure only that we give the Holy Spirit control of our spirits in order to win the battle of formulating and living out our personal and corporate visions. It still won’t be easy, because our souls will often fight against what’s best for us, because what’s best for us is seldom easy at first.

When it comes to formulating and living out a clear, compelling and godly personal vision, we must hear from God by reading His word, by listening in prayer, by considering our circumstances and by listening to others who hear from God and speak into our lives, and then we must commit to carrying out that vision in the power of the Holy Spirit. If you ever want to see an example of someone who had a great personal vision, but was ineffective at living it out until he gave the Holy Spirit charge over his life, look at the biblical character known as Simon Peter. Before, he received the Holy Spirit in his life, he was clear and bold about his vision. He was going to follow Jesus whatever that meant. He would preach, teach, heal and cast out demons in Jesus’ name. He had more than a modicum of success, too.

Then Jesus was arrested, and it looked like Peter would also be arrested. In that moment of trial, Peter denied three times that he knew or had even met Jesus. The experience devastated Peter. But after Jesus’ resurrection and return to heaven, Jesus sent the Holy Spirit to the believers, including Peter. When we read the account of the turnaround in Peter’s life in Acts chapters 2-10 it is incredible. The vision is the same, but the ability to carry it out is multiplied.

I recognize some who read these posts may not believe in God, or may not believe that Jesus Christ is God, or that there is a Holy Spirit or even that we have a spirit. You may certainly develop a personal vision and implement it in the power of your mind, emotions and will. Many have done so and have accomplished great things. In my experience, the ability to do great things is within human capacity. What I am writing here is to demonstrate that the greatest things personally and corporately are accomplished when divine capacity is added to human capacity through the Holy Spirit. My hope and prayer is that all of us who are Jesus’ followers will let His Spirit work as we formulate and live out our personal and corporate visions.

I also hope and pray those of you who read this who are not Jesus’ followers will consider what I’m writing and take the step of faith necessary to trust Jesus as your Savior and Lord and let His Spirit work in your spirit as you formulate and live out your personal and corporate visions, too. That will give you the greatest opportunity to develop and live visions that matter both for this life and for eternity.

Here’s to leading better by letting the Holy Spirit work in our spirits as we formulate and live out our personal and corporate visions–today!

Welcome to fall! If you’re anything like me, you’re wondering how in the world it’s fall already. We’re nearly three-quarters of the way through 2016, and time keeps on slipping, slipping, slipping into the future… Anyway, the first day of fall is a great day to stop and make an assessment of what you’re going to do for the next three months. What is the number one goal you have for your personal leadership and for your corporate leadership? Is there an area in your personal life that needs to be addressed so you can move forward in every area of your life? Yesterday we took the time to reflect on the recent past–summer. Today we’re taking the time to ponder about the immediate future–fall.

While one of the dangers of reflection and pondering is that we fail to live fully in the present, another danger is that we are unable to live fully in the present, because we haven’t learned from the past or planned the future. Drifting through life is not an option for leaders, because drifting isn’t leading. On the other hand, dwelling on the past, focusing on the “if only’s” of our lives keeps us anchored to the past and unable to move forward. When I start to walk down the rabbit trail of “if only”–if only I hadn’t made that decision, if only I had built that relationship, if only… you get the idea, my focus becomes the rear view mirror of my life, and I don’t lead. Make sure the if only’s of your life don’t become the focus of your life.

When I look to the future with a “what if” mindset, in the negative sense of “what if” I can also become paralyzed. For example, if I’m constantly asking: What if the economy turns south? What if that decision I made doesn’t produce the results I’m counting on it to produce? What if…the list goes on and on. When I camp in the what ifs as I think about the future that season is not going to produce the results it could.

So, here we are on September 22, 2016, the first day of fall. Have you already planned this next quarter? Have you reflected effectively on summer and gleaned the information from that reflection that has allowed you to celebrate the wins, debrief the losses and glean the information that will allow you not to make the same mistakes again, and recognize that 90% of the quarter was simply showing up and persevering through the relationships and processes necessary to move your life, family and work place forward? If yes, then learn from the past, live today fully and plan for the future. If no, there’s no better time than today to sit down and do a postmortem on summer, and set forth a few plans for fall based on what you find.

Notice I wrote “…set forth a few plans for fall…” My tendency is always to assume I can accomplish far more in a day than I can, but to underestimate how much I can do in a season or a year. Whatever your tendency remember that failing to plan is planning to fail. That reminder has helped me so many times, because I am not a planner by nature. Today and yesterday’s posts are at least as much for me as they are for any of you. When I challenge you with Socrates’ quote about the unexamined life not being worth living on a regular basis that is as much for my benefit as for yours. I want each of us to be the best leader we can be, and taking the time to look back at the end of a season, and forward at the beginning of a new one will help each of us do just that.

Here’s to leading better, by looking forward–today!

Today’s post is an extension of yesterday’s on the topic of life planning. A big part of life planning is developing a rhythm of work and rest. Whether you’re a follower of Jesus or not, the importance of developing that work–rest or work–Sabbath rhythm can’t be overstated. We all know folks who think that the most productive people are those who work seven days a week and push through for fifteen hours a day. Certainly that approach will accumulate a great many hours in a much shorter time than if we work six days a week or even five, and work only eight to ten hours a day.

The question is: To what end? In other words if you work 105 hours each week and I work only 40-50 will you be more than twice as effective as meet, twice as successful, twice as happy? No one can answer that question definitively, but this much we can say: Working 105 hour weeks for weeks on end will almost surely create a level of stress in your body and your soul that even if sustainable will short-circuit your long-term health and perhaps longevity.

I am in the midst of a two-week span where I will be working many more hours than normal, probably 85-90 hours each week. I am doing that intentionally, because our church is preparing for a major initiative to press forward with a building construction process. While I typically limit the number of meetings beyond the daily staff and planning meetings to two or three each week, during these two weeks I’m leading additional meetings four or five evenings during each of these two weeks, one on Sunday and several one-on-one meetings as well. As I said I’m doing this intentionally. When I did my annual planning, I scheduled a week of vacation following these two weeks, because I knew I would need some rest, some Sabbath to be renewed and refreshed after this time.

You may be thinking: That’s great for you, but I can’t schedule vacation any time I want to schedule it. My company tells me when to take time off. Fair enough. When that’s the case, you can still schedule your work rhythm to include some extra time of rest after a push time by taking a Saturday as a true Sabbath rather than as a day to check items off of your home improvement schedule. When I came back from Cambodia a couple of weeks ago, I had a project waiting for me in my basement. I am finishing my home office, and my list included painting the walls, installing the door, grouting the ceramic tile I installed before I left for the trip, putting on the floor trim and crown moulding, and then moving my furniture into the room. In my mind, I would get all of that done the weekend after I returned.

What has actually happened is I have painted the walls with primer. I’m behind on the project, but I have needed to get other things accomplished, and I have needed to rest. One of the hardest things for me to do in life planning is to get enough sleep, and to take intentional time for Sabbath for rest, renewal and reflection on a weekly basis. That has been made doubly challenging by the schedule I’m maintaining these two weeks and that my sleep rhythm hasn’t yet returned to normal after returning from Cambodia. I’m still waking up daily at about 3:00am, which makes getting enough rest impossible.

I’m not complaining, simply stating the reality of my life. Your reality is different, but undoubtedly you have times when life is crazy and your sleep is disrupted. What do we do then? The key is to be intentional. Today is my Sabbath. I happen to have both a wedding and a wedding rehearsal this afternoon, which means my Sabbath is going to be interrupted. I have determined to take a little extra time tomorrow to rest and be refreshed. Sabbath means more than just resting. Sabbath is a time to focus on God (for those of us who believe in Him) and His glory and presence in our lives. It’s a time to be renewed and refreshed in bodies, souls and spirits. I will invest some time in reading the Bible as well as a leadership book I’m most of the way through: The Ideal Team Player by Patrick Lencioni. I’ll invest some time with Nancy. We’ll catch up with each other. Depending on the whether we may pull some weeds in the flower garden, which is a mindless activity that lets me use my hands, since I work with my mind and heart all week. It also allows us to talk about our lives and what is important in them right now.

The concept of Sabbath has nearly been lost in our culture, but if you are going to be a great leader over the long haul, you must invest time in your life plan to rest, reflect and be renewed. That time is like the lumberjack taking time to sharpen his ax, so it will be ready for the next tree he has to fall. When I was a young man, my Mom used to tell me, “You can’t burn the candle at both ends.” I would respond, “It depends on how long the candle is.” A couple of decades ago, I heard Rick Warren say, “The one who burns the candle at both ends isn’t as bright as he thinks he is.” Amen. That’s a difficult lesson to learn, but a lesson that will enhance our success and our significance over the long haul.

Here’s to leading better, by taking time to plan and live out Sabbath in our lives–today!

[Have a blessed weekend! Be with you on Monday.]

One of the most important lessons I’ve learned from mission trips in general, but from the recent Cambodia trip in particular, is: when it’s over, it’s just beginning. For example, during the trip I was reminded of how much I take simple blessings for granted. When I get up and brush my teeth in the morning, I generally take for granted that I can rinse my toothbrush and my mouth with the water from the sink. I couldn’t do that in Cambodia. That gives me an opportunity to thank God every time I brush my teeth. If you aren’t a follower of Jesus, you may be thinking, “That’s silly.”

Whether you follow Jesus or not, it’s still a great reminder that we are so blessed or have life so much better or easier than so many others in the world. I could add to the simple example of brushing one’s teeth with tap water, having a hot shower everyday; having food that doesn’t make me sick at every meal; having a clean, modern toilet; and the list goes on. You may not think any of these things matter, but that’s probably because you take them for granted. Living without any combination of these conveniences for a couple of weeks always helps me remember that I am a blessed person, and starting from that position puts me in a grateful frame of mind. Countless studies have shown that whether one is a follower of Jesus or not, gratitude is an attitude that enhances one’s overall capacity to live and lead.

Another reminder I’ve been given every time I’ve gone on a cross-cultural mission experience is how much I take it for granted that I can communicate effectively, because everyone understands my language, and how much I expect others to speak English. What does that have to do with leadership? It’s impossible to lead without communication. While no one can learn the language of every culture one will visit, as Americans most of us have not sought to learn any other language. I don’t mean that we have taken a couple of years of Spanish, German or French in high school, I mean that we have taken communicating in another language seriously.

Every time I go to Cuba where they speak the language I took in high school and college, I’m reminded that had I continued to practice Spanish over the past year, I would be able to communicate with everyone, and not only the ones who have taken it upon themselves to learn my language. I can communicate well enough to get by in Spanish, but with a little effort on a daily basis from now until this coming February, I will be able to communicate well in Spanish, not just well enough. I make that commitment every time I come back from Cuba, but somehow life has always seemed to get in the way.

I just set out the remainder of my September schedule yesterday and it includes studying Spanish six days each week. My trip to Cambodia reminded me once again me how important communicating in the indigenous language of a people is, since I couldn’t do it at all there. I haven’t added learning Khymer to my schedule, because I don’t have time to learn a whole new language that is nothing like English. I do have time to become truly bilingual, and to be prepared to communicate in dozens of additional countries, and to communicate with visitors to our country whose primary language is Spanish.

While in Cambodia, I was reminded once again how important it is to start my day with time in prayer and reflection, and to rely on God throughout the day. The biggest reason for that is the pace of life is so much “slower” there. I put slower in quotes, because I’m not sure that’s the right word to describe the difference. What I mean is the technology I’m used to having doesn’t work as well there, because I didn’t pay for all the upgrades to make it work. I didn’t have the routine of life I have here to follow, and in a number of the areas we visited life was slower. Now that I’m home, I’ve been making efforts to wake up early (not hard with the adjustment from the eleven hour time difference) and invest the first part of my day, whether a half an hour or an hour with God. I’ve sought to check my technology less often. I’ve sought to “take a breath” and simply let life come at me at a slower pace. This is hard. It also makes life much more effective.

I could name many other aspects of my life that are being impacted since coming back from Cambodia, from the way I am relating to those around me, to the people in Cambodia for whom I’m praying more fervently. The point is simple: leaving my everyday life and routine for a couple of weeks and living in a vastly different culture helps me to consider, which of the aspects of my everyday life and routine add value to me and those I lead, and which do not. Then the challenge is to determine what to do about that. Do I adjust what I do? Do I adjust how I do what I do? Do I eliminate some of the things I do? Those questions cause me to examine my life, and as our friend Socrates reminded us so long ago, that is a major key to a life worth living. I would add it is a major key to becoming ever more effective leaders.

Here’s to leading better by examining what we do and why–today!

Thanks for rejoining me after my time away in Cambodia. I learned a number of leadership lessons during the trip, and that will be the content of my posts this week. The first lesson I learned is that a team is better than an individual. I already knew that from my prior life experience, but I haven’t been to Cambodia with a team from New Life before, and the experience was incredible. We had an eight member team including me. I was “wearing two hats” on the trip, because I’m the lead pastor of New Life, and also a member of the Southeast Asia Prayer Center (SEAPC), the organization that sponsored the trip. I had some official duties in my SEAPC board member capacity, which kept me away from the team for several days, so it would have been easy for them to be upset, especially because none of them had been to Cambodia before, and several had never been on a mission trip before. Instead, each of the team members put the mission’s purpose first, and worked together effectively whatever the task set before them.

The biggest reason the team was better than me going by myself is because now eight people at New Life have a first hand understanding of what’s happening through our mission in Cambodia. They will be great ambassadors for the mission, and their experiences shared with others at New Life will help everyone to have both a better understanding and deeper commitment to the work.

In addition, the team accomplished so much more than I would have been able to do myself. We had two primary “tasks” for this particular trip: 1) Help lead a “Kids’ Kamp” for 400 Cambodia orphans; and 2) Do repair work on one of the orphanages where the children live. Obviously, having eight team members gave us the ability to accomplish so much more than one person could have done. It also freed me to participate in several important meetings in my capacity as an SEAPC board member, including a meeting with the Deputy Prime Minister of Cambodia. Without the team, it would have been an either/or opportunity rather than a both/and.

As you reflect on these differences, think how they may apply in your workplace, church or other organization. It’s tempting to be “Lone Rangers” in our efforts, because everyone knows if you want something done right it’s best to do it yourself. That may well be true if you are the best person at the task, for that particular task, but if the goal is to multiply our impact, then a Lone Ranger approach is only minimally effective. After all, even the Lone Ranger had Tonto, and even they could only address one situation at a time. Having a team gives us the ability to multiply both our skills and our efforts.

Let me make one final point today regarding the benefits of team, and that is a distinction between a team and a committee or a collection of individuals. A collection of individuals may all have great gifts, skills and abilities, but they won’t multiply the impact of the group, because they’re working for themselves. A committee is a group of people with a common purpose, but often that purpose is more the maintenance of a particular effort rather than the effective completion of a vision or task. In a team, the individuals submit their gifts, skills and abilities to one another in order to accomplish the vision or task at hand. Cooperation and communication are key components of accomplishing the vision and task and the group is committed to one another.

I had that experience in Cambodia in so many ways. The team went to serve Jesus and submitted itself to Him. In practical terms that meant the team accepted leadership from those who were in charge of the projects they undertook. Whether that was Pastor Sinai, the SEAPC Cambodia director, or one of the area directors for the area of Kid’s Kamp to which each team member was assigned, or to the project director at the orphanage where repairs were done, the team members submitted themselves to the appropriate authority and much was accomplished as a result.

As you go about your work today, I hope you will consider the multiplying impact of teamwork, and then implement it into areas where it will make an impact.

Here’s to leading better, by working together–today!