The Big 6-0!

Happy Birthday to me! I’ve reached the big 6-0. It’s hard for me to believe I’m sixty years old. As so many people say, “I don’t feel that old.” I really don’t, most of the time, anyway. Over the past week I’ve been reflecting on my fifties, and significant truths I’ve learned and applied in my life, so today, I look forward to this golden decade of life. I read a quote from Bob Biehl recently that said the sixties ought to be one’s most productive decade of life. I’m certainly seeing it that way. While I don’t have the physical capacity to work as I once did, the knowledge and wisdom I’ve accumulated along the way along with the presence and power of the Holy Spirit more than make up for the physical deficits.

More than anything I’m grateful to have the opportunity to live and move and have my being in Jesus Christ, and to be serving Him effectively as I launch into my sixties.  Life is a gift and when I was young I often took it for granted. Now, I wake up everyday and thank God for the gift of another day of life. I’m grateful for the Holy Spirit’s constant presence, guidance and direction in my life. I’m grateful for Nancy and enjoy living life together with her more with each passing season of our lives. She and I have always been so opposite in our personalities, but we’ve been hitting our stride in making those differences work together to create a better and better marriage as the days, weeks, months and years pass. I feel sorry for those who gave up on their marriages in the early years or even decades, and never got to enjoy the growing unity that decades together create when God is leading.

I’m grateful for the opportunity to do meaningful work to advance God’s Kingdom, and to do it with a staff of fantastic people who love Jesus and their particular ministries. As we work together the results are so encouraging. Once again, the application of perseverance over time, and following God’s leading is producing a church I’m so glad to be here to experience and help lead.

As we reach various milestones in our lives, they provide us the opportunity and to remember once again that the unexamined life isn’t worth living, regardless of our age. As I reflect on the first sixty years and look forward to the days, months and years ahead, if the Lord wills, I am filled with gratitude for the past and hope for the future. I’m looking forward to waking up to a great many more days of serving Jesus in, through and beyond New Life.

I hope wherever you are on the timeline of your life that you are grateful for God’s work and hopeful for His future in your life. Why not take a moment right now to reflect on where you’ve been and where you’re going? Thank God for all He’s done, and call on Him to fill you anew with the Holy Spirit that you may continue to serve Him well.

Here’s to leading better, by pausing to reflect on where you’ve been and where you’re going–today!

The Last Week of My 50’s

As I live the last week of my 50’s and consider some of the most significant growth that took place during them, something that happened at the beginning of my 50’s has had powerful effect throughout them: God showed me how to overcome a life-long battle with anger. I grew up in an angry household, my dad was an angry man. His father before him had been an angry man, as had his father. We had a generational curse of anger going in our family. I inherited the anger, too. By the time I was five, I had already learned that when things didn’t go my way the natural response was anger.

While I surrendered my life to Jesus at the age of twelve, my anger problem didn’t go away. Even when I went to seminary and became a pastor, the anger problem persisted. I prayed for God to remove it. I asked God forgiveness over and over again after an outburst of unrighteous anger, and promised not to do it again. Then something big or usually small would happen and I would explode again. While I managed the anger for the most part, it surfaced regularly, and while I never became violent, or hurt anyone, it was a poor testimony and it ate away at me.

In my early 50’s I read a book by Gary Smalley titled Change Your Heart, Change Your Life. The book contained a simple truth: whatever the sin you struggle with in your life has been “written” on your heart. In order to overcome it, you must “overwrite” the sin, with a truth from God that “erases” it. It sounds simple, and easy, and it was. While I could have chosen many verses dealing with anger to overwrite the life-long incidents of anger that were in my heart, I chose the Golden Rule, Luke 7:12: In all things do to others what you would have them do to you. This sums up the Law and the Prophets. I prayed the verse over and over. I asked God to use it to change my heart. When everyday situations came up that moved my heart to its typical anger, I would pray, “God let me do to that person/driver/cashier what I would want to have done to me.” In a matter of days, I noticed a difference. I was in the conscious learned stage, but I was catching the anger sooner, and overwriting it with a call for God to give me the power of His Spirit to do what I would want to have done in the situation.

As the months passed the incidents of anger reduced dramatically. Now, as I near the end of my 60’s, I find most of the time I’m living at the unconscious learned level when it comes to anger. In other words, I don’t have to think about not “blowing up” any more. Yes, occasions still occur when it flares up. In those moments, I go back to the conscious mode of asking God to fill me with the Holy Spirit and to do what I would want to have done to me. But more and more, I have hours of victory and sometimes whole days.  That never happened in my teens, twenties, thirties or forties.

What about you? Do you have a signature sin that’s written on or in your heart? Do you confess it, repent of it and promise God you won’t do it again, only to have it show up again in minutes, hours or days? If you do, I recommend the process I mentioned. God’s word is true and His Holy Spirit is powerful. We know that, but sometimes we need to be reminded. I also recommend the Smalley’s book as an excellent resource for helping you overcome whatever it is that is holding you back from living victoriously as a person and leader in Jesus’ name.

Here’s to leading better by addressing any sin that has overwritten your heart–today!

The Last Week of My 50’s

One week from today, I will be 60. (The Lord willing, of course!) That makes this the last week of my 50’s. Some would be moaning or decrying the reality that they are old. I am looking forward to my 60’s. I recently read a daily comment from Bob Biehl saying the 60’s ought to be one’s most productive decade. In addition, the alternative to aging is going to be with Jesus. I’m all for going to be with Jesus, and am ready right now. At the same time, I enjoy living here, and want to impact far more people than I have to this point with the Gospel, so if the Lord gives me another day, or year, or decade or two, it’s fine with me.

But this post and the next two are going to focus on the last week of my fifties. Anyone who has lived to his or her 60th birthday, has lived through  birth, toddlerhood, childhood, adolescence, young adulthood and the transition years of the 50’s. As I look back I remember hearing a pastor who was in his 50’s preaching a sermon when I was in my teens. I don’t remember much about the sermon except a point he made about aging. He said, “If God were to give me the opportunity to become a day younger every day from this point forward, or to continue being one day older, I would never want to become a day younger each day.” I remembering thinking at the time the man was crazy.  Why would you not want to be younger and younger instead of older and older?

Having reached and lived my 50’s I’m in full agreement with the pastor. I have been learning some realities about myself and my relationship with God over this decade that I wouldn’t trade for reliving my forties, thirties, twenties or teens. In addition, were I to become a day younger each day, I would know one day’s less worth of what I know, and would have one day’s less wisdom with which to approach the day ahead. What I have learned in my 50’s is while physical prowess is a blessing, it’s a poor substitute for wisdom. I could work harder and longer when I was younger than I can today, but now I know better which work is worth doing.

What I’m saying in a nutshell is I’m grateful to God for every day He has given me, but I’m particularly grateful He has given me my 50’s, years when my maturity has given me a perspective on life that allows me to be far more helpful to others than I have ever been, and far more at peace with myself. Life is a precious gift, and eternal life is even more so. While I was saved when I was twelve, I understand both life and eternal life much more deeply than I did back then. It’s interesting that nearly every culture in history has valued the wisdom that comes with age, but as we move into the 21st century, it is less and less the case here in America, and it seem in many other nations as well.

We are so enamored with the new, the novel, the latest technological device that wisdom has been devalued. I’m not complaining, simply observing. But if there has ever been a culture that has been more dressed up with less of a place to go that matters than our current one, I’m not aware. My Dad died in 1996. For the last ten years of his life he often said, “This world is going crazy,” when he would watch some senseless act of violence on television, or hear of the latest fashion or cultural craze. I have no idea what he would think had he lived an additional twenty years. It seems as we have accelerated the rate of change, we have not accelerated the rate of wisdom or common sense to go with it.

Please, don’t hear that as sour grapes from an old guy. I don’t want to go back to the America I grew up in. I do want to see Jesus lifted up in every generation. After all, what’s the point of getting everywhere faster, getting the latest information instantaneously, and developing better systems and techniques if what we’re doing has little eternal value? As I live out this last week of my 50’s I’m becoming a bit nostalgic, but even more I’m grateful to God for the passing days, weeks, months and years. I’m grateful that I not only know more now than I did back then, I’m more certain of God’s goodness and love, of His grace and mercy in my life and the lives of others than ever before.

I’m also more aware my moment for standing in front of Jesus to hear Him assess my life is much closer than it’s ever been. I live each day to be ready, because I so want to hear Him say, “Well done, good and faithful servant enter the joy of your Master’s Kingdom,” when that day comes. I’m not expecting that day to come in the next few weeks or years, but if it does I’m ready. When it does, it won’t be a surprise. That’s the benefit and blessing of having lived nearly 50 of my 60 years as His follower.

I pray you are living each day as if it matters, because it does! When we live each day that way as the weeks, months, years and decades pass, and we move from one milestone to the next, we can do so with joy and satisfaction.

Here’s to leading better, by taking time to reflect on where we’ve been, where we are and where we’re going–today!

Sabbath Revisited…

Today is my Sabbath.  What does that mean? Originally, the Sabbath was the seventh day of the week, traditionally Saturday. God established the Sabbath as a reminder of His priority in our lives. God created the universe and all it contains in six days, and “rested” on the seventh. I put rested in quotes, because I’m certain God wasn’t tired. After all, He is God. The Sabbath was God’s creation for us, as Jesus reminded us during His earthly ministry. It’s purpose was for us to be renewed, restored and refreshed, as well as so we would remember who we are and whose we are.

When we work seven days a week, or when we’re on “24/7,” we find it easy to think the world revolves around us, that we are the reason so much is getting done. We are the reason our organizations or churches are  healthy, or growing, or whatever label we use to show forward progress. The truth is as John Eldridge puts it, “There’s a way thinks work.” In his book on prayer, titled Moving Mountains, Eldridge points out God has ordered the universe so that there’s a way thinks work. Simple examples are logs float down stream, and items dropped from a roof fall to the ground.

In our lives when we ignore the principle of Sabbath, over time our lives will stop working as they were designed by God to work. God created us for rhythms of work and rest. During the work times we are to give our best empowered by His Spirit, and when we rest we are to stop to be renewed, restored, refreshed and to focus on God, to remember He is God and we are not. As we rest and reflect, we will worship God praising Him for who He is and thanking Him for all He does. When we stop to remember He is God and has provided us with every good and perfect gift, we will be moved to thanksgiving and to supplication and intercession, to asking God to meet our needs and the needs of those around us.

Unless we pause for Sabbath, we run the danger of assuming too much about ourselves and too little about God. The too much we assume about ourselves is that we are the reason things work. We are the reason the organization is succeeding. We are the reason people’s lives are being changed. We must always remember: God uses us to accomplish all those things, but God doesn’t need us. He did create the universe in six days! I’m grateful for those who have pushed me to honor my Sabbath, to stop to be renewed, restored and refreshed, and to reflect on who God is and why we worship Him.

That doesn’t mean I never “do” anything on my Sabbath, but more and more, my goal is to break the routine of my weekly work schedule, to invest more time alone with God than I ordinarily do day-to-day, and invest some time with Nancy where we enjoy some aspect of God’s creation, or build our relationship or our relationships with another individual, couple or family not for church purposes, but simply to enjoy God’s presence among and within us.

How are you doing at keeping a Sabbath on a weekly basis? Do you break the routine of work with genuine rest, restoration, renewal, reflection, and honoring God for who He is? Take five minutes right now to ask yourself those questions, and respond honestly. Based on your answers, adjust your schedule to include a God-honoring Sabbath, and remember the Sabbath was made for you, by a God who loves each of us as if there were only one of us.

Here’s to leading better, by preparing for or participating in a weekly Sabbath–today!

Summer Slowdown?

This weekend is Memorial Day weekend, the unofficial start of summer. So, are you planning a summer slowdown? Most churches across America assume summer will be a slow time. Many make changes that ensure that assumption comes to pass. Whether it’s dropping back from two services to one, or eliminating a Saturday evening service, or changing the regular service time to an earlier hour in order to give people an opportunity to get the most out of their Sundays, or shutting down children’s programming or youth programming, each of those actions ensures a slowdown.

Here’s a suggestion that will help you continue to reach as many people as possible. It’s important to remember many people move during the summer months, and may be looking for a church. If yours seems to be “shut down” for the summer, they might look elsewhere. So, the suggestion is: reduce your meeting schedule during the summer, but keep your services and programs going. We all need a little “down time” during the course of a year, and while summer makes sense as one of those times, the more we can keep things “normal” for the folks who come on the weekends, the less likely we will be to face a summer slowdown.

Yes, members of our church families will go on vacation this summer, but most of them won’t be gone for more than a couple of weeks. Yes, some folks go to camp or the beach every week, but it’s a minority. The reality is if the people know the church is “open” for the summer, they’re far more likely to be there, than if we give them signs that we’re not expecting them to be there. At New Life we’re giving folks a summer opportunity we’re calling New Life University or NLU. It’s a classroom style experience, that will run for ten weeks during June through August. While that may sound like a bad time to hold such a course, nearly 10% of our people have signed up to participate. I will be teaching the course, and have already outlined the course, so it will only be a matter of the actual hour and a half in class time each week that will be added to my schedule.

So what are you doing this summer to show your church family you’re open for their participation? Are you doing anything special? We’re having our second annual Fireworks Night on the 3rd of July . We held our first one last year on July 3, as part of our 15th anniversary celebration, and found out the community loved the idea. We realized that while there’s a good bit of volunteer time needed on the day of the event, since we outsource the fireworks, it’s a relatively simple event to host, and it has a high, positive impact in the community. You may not be able to do something like that, but you’d be surprised the goodwill you can generate with a brief, concentrated event that welcomes the community.

My point is simply to help all of us consider how we can maximize the impact of summer rather than defaulting to the summer slowdown.

Here’s to leading better, by being strategic about the upcoming summer–not just today, but from now through August!

The Pastoral Part of Leading…

Each of us who serves as a pastoral leader is first a pastor. That may have gone without saying thirty years ago, when I was a young pastor, but these days the emphasis has shifted to leadership in most areas of life. The reason is simple: leadership is lacking in virtually every sphere of life: government, business, the church, and families. For all the talk about leadership these days, and all that’s written about it, finding leaders with character, competence, and the courage to lead is a challenge. The truth be told more churches are struggling because of a lack of leadership than a lack of pastoring.

But pastoring is an essential part of who we are and what we’re called to do. Yesterday after worship, Nancy and I were on our way to the funeral home to visit a family in the church who had lost an elderly parent. I got my phone of the console of my car, and saw I had a text message. It was from another member of the church whose 35 year-old nephew had died that morning of an apparent heart attack. While the family isn’t directly part of New Life, they consider me their pastor, so that was added to the list of visits. Nothing can make a situation like that better, but as pastoral leaders, it is our task and opportunity to care and be present in the name of Jesus.

While that is a dramatic example of the pastoral part of leadership, we have opportunities every day to show a shepherd’s heart whether we’re the only pastor on staff or lead a large staff. In my role as the lead pastor of a large and growing church family , my primary shepherding takes place toward the staff. While my leadership gifting is high and my mercy/ compassion gift low, my role calls me to encourage, challenge, pray for and with staff members. Sometimes that involves a casual word in passing. At other times it’s part of our structured staff development time. Im not naturally inclined to see when someone is down or struggling as many of you may be, but it is vital to our long-term health as a staff, and ultimately then, as a church family for me to be aware of the overall climate of the staff as well as the health of the individuals who make up the staff.

How are you doing at the pastoral part of leadership in your church? Are you aware of who’s hurting and who’s doing well? Do you take the time to encourage and correct both casually and intentionally? Whether that means doing so primarily with with your staff, or with the church family as a whole, everyone follows the leader, and it will always be true in the pastoral area. When people see you caring in Jesus’ name, regardless of your spiritual and natural gifting, they will take their cures from you and do the same. The pastoral role in leadership is essential in order to have a healthy and growing church family.

Here’s to leading better, by taking the time to be a pastor–today!

Gleanings: Chronological Snobbery

As we close out this week of reflecting on gleanings from my week of personal retreat, we come to the topic of “chronological snobbery.” I was first introduced to the term by C.S. Lewis. Lewis pointed out in every age there is a tendency toward chronological snobbery, that is to think the ideas of the current age are superior to the ideas of previous ages. Lewis thought chronological snobbery cost the people of his age a great deal, because much of value comes from the writings of the ancients and from those who have gone before us.

Lewis’ point is well-taken and never more so than in our era, when a new idea about just about everything comes out every fifteen seconds, or so it seems. The expansive access we have to information, and the instantaneous nurture of that access makes it seem that only the new holds merit. In a world where thousands of pages of information are being  written and uploaded to the cloud daily, why would we turn to the past for wisdom? The short answer is: if it’s still around it was of enough value to be preserved and passed on to future generations. The Bible is the ultimate example of old books with old ideas that are still relevant for today. Old books is in the plural because while the Bible is one integrated whole, it consists of 66 individual books written by dozens of authors under the guidance of the Holy Spirit so its truth is superior to anything ever written in any era.

As leaders who lead in Jesus’ name, we dare not think the latest leadership podcast, or book on time management has more to speak into our lives as God’s leaders than His written word. When we succumb to chronological snobbery we miss out on some of the most profound wisdom available to us. For example, I invested a great deal of my week of retreat re-reading, studying and dissection Watchman Nee’s Normal Christian Life, which was written in 1977–forty years ago.  I had read the book before, but as I re-read and compared what Nee said to the Book of Romans from which most of the content is derived I was amazed at the depth of Nee’s insight, and of how much I had missed both in Romans and in Nee’s work.

Had I decided only to take “new” books with me last week, I would have gained benefit to be sure, but it would have been nothing compared to the deep insight I gained by taking a classic off the shelf and returning to it. Even Nee’s work is “nee” by comparison to some of the classics of the faith written hundreds and even more than a thousand years ago. When we put together our reading or listening lists, we do well not to assume that if it hasn’t come out in the last six months that it’s out of date. If you haven’t read The Normal Christian Life, I encourage you to read it. You may be surprised how relevant the work is, and how powerful for the practical application and living of our faith in Jesus. After all, leading effectively always starts with living faithfully when it comes to those of us who are leading in Jesus’ name.

Here’s to leading better by taking the time to consider and delve into some of the classic works of the faith–today! (or in the near future!)

The Power of Ten Minutes…

Last weekend, I preached a message on the “deadly” sin of sloth or laziness. We have been working our way through a series on the Seven Deadly Sins and last week was sloth. In preparing the message, I recognized once again that sloth is my most challenging sin of the seven. While I work hard much of the time, I’m prone to bouts of laziness. After finishing a message or some other significant task, I used to “reward” myself by playing a game of spider solitaire. If I lost the game, I’m competitive enough that I would play again. When I would win, I would sometimes say to myself, “I’ll try that again.” The result was often wasting half an hour or more. I stopped doing that after a message I preached several years ago on spiritual disciplines.

That didn’t eradicate sloth from my life. Again, I get as much done as most pastors, and likely more than many, but that isn’t the standard by which I get to judge sloth in my life. The standard is my own potential, what God has planned for me. By that standard, I often fall short. Yes, we’re all saved by grace through faith, so none of us can boast. And a verse later we’re reminded we were created to do good works. The connection between work and rest is a vital one, one to which God dedicated significant space in the Bible to address. The standard is to work six days and rest one. Of course we’re also to rest each day at the end of the work. So where does sloth come in?

For me it comes in the ten minutes after I complete a project. Certainly, after completing a project taking a few minutes to rest or refocus makes a great deal of sense, but I often find myself not refocusing so much as losing focus, as indulging in an a time-wasting activity. It won’t be an activity that is necessarily sinful, but it will distract me from the work of the day or the moment of rest I need. The power of those ten minutes is vital.If I do, indeed, rest and re-focus moving on to the next task, then my day is exponentially more productive than if I get side-tracked.

Have you experienced this? Do you experience the power of those ten minutes, or are you disciplined enough that they don’t impact your work and rest cycles? I have been much more intentional about using those ten minute opportunities wisely from Saturday through today, and I am amazed at how many more important tasks I have started and completed than usual. As I remind us so often: The unexamined life is not worth living. This is definitely an area that’s worth examining and adjusting if its an area that’s keeping you from the effectiveness God created you to have as a leader.

Here’s to leading better by managing the power of the ten minutes–today!

Listening…

One of the most frequently neglected aspects of prayer for many of us is listening. I’ve often thought how strange it would seem to someone if we walked up to them, engaged in a conversation, asked them some advice about a certain challenge we were facing and then walked away. Yet, that’s exactly what I have done so often in my times of prayer with the Lord. I have engaged Him in a conversation, then told Him about a major challenge I was facing personally or in my leadership at the church, asked Him what to do and then walked away, thinking I had just engaged in a “quality” prayer time with Him.

How strange is that? I just asked the God of the universe for His help and then walked away without waiting to see what He had to say on the matter. Recognizing this as a weakness in my daily times of prayer, I committed some time ago to always include a specific time of listening when I pray. The amount of time varies. For a while I would invest at least 1/3 of the total time in prayer in listening. Right now, I’m using a variation of Dr. Dick Eastman’s “Hour That Changes the World” model of prayer, which has twelve elements, listening being one of them, so my listening time is about 10-15% of the time I’m investing in prayer. The key is: I’m listening.

Yesterday during my time of listening, God offered a phrase concerning our upcoming series: Living in the Spirit, which will be a five-week message series in June and the first week of July. The phrase was brief, but helpful–Deeper not Weirder. As I pondered the phrase throughout the day yesterday, and this morning, I kept saying, “Yes!” After all, when it comes to the Holy Spirit in the life of the Church universal we find everything from a basic non-acknowledgement the Holy Spirit is still working to a radical weirdness that scares most of us. I wouldn’t say God was calling me to “balance” when it comes to the Holy Spirit, but that as we present the messages we are to focus on a deeper relationship with God in our lives through the ongoing presence and power of the Holy Spirit.

Listening isn’t easy for me, but it always has some important result. Many times I don’t hear or receive anything other than the sense of God being with me. That’s enough when it happens, because it reminds me God is with me. At other times, God has given me the seed of a message or teaching, or a prompt to visit a person or an affirmation of a direction I was already heading, or a command to stop going in a specific direction. In my entire life, God has spoken to me in an audible voice only a couple times. He has spoken clearly to me many times. The key commonality in those times is: I was listening.

I remember many years ago when I was driving home from a leadership conference led by John Windber. All day long he had been saying, “God told me…” “God directed me…” “God guided me…” I was reflecting on all the times he had made such statements through the day, and I said, “God, why don’t you talk to me like that?”

As clearly as God has ever told me anything, He said, “Because you don’t listen.” Whoa. That set me back. I realized it was far too true. I was so “busy” doing the Lord’s work, that I often shot up prayers throughout the day, and then went and did something about whatever it was I had just asked the Lord for wisdom, guidance or help. Seldom did I stop to listen.

In that moment I said, “Okay, I’m listening now.” In the next five minutes or so, God gave me three specific instructions. Each of them related to a man who was part of the church I was serving at the time. It was nearly 10:00 pm, but I drove to his house. When I knocked on the door, and he came to answer it, I told him this was going to sound strange, but that God had given me three messages to give to him. As I spoke the messages–all of which have happened over the years–the man started crying. He told me he had been angry at God and that although everyone thought he was a believer, he had never trusted Jesus as his Savior and Lord. He committed his life to Jesus in that moment, and has served him faithfully ever since.

You would think that would have been enough to cause me to invest time every day listening to God, but it wasn’t. I have invested a good deal of time in listening over the years, but the answers have seldom been so immediate, clear and compelling. Recently, I realized once again that as a leader of a large and growing church, the most pressing need in my life is to be listening to the God who put me in the position. I need to stop and listen daily. Thankfully, God is extremely patient and has been honoring my renewed commitment to listen, by guiding me more and more.

Where are you when it comes to listening in prayer? Are you intentional about listening to God when you pray? Do you turn to Him in exasperation at times and ask, “Why don’t you speak to me like you do ________?” Do you even believe God is still speaking or is there to speak? These are vital questions, and how we answer them will determine how close our relationship and union with God becomes. After all, it’s tough to have a one-way relationship. Take a moment sometime today, or more than a moment and listen.  God is still speaking…

Here’s to leading better by listening to God when we pray–today!